I wanted to share with you this amasssing testimonial from a beautiful soul, part of our AmaSSSing Ladies Community, that chose to love herself regardless of any outside circumstances. She chose to put herself first, to heal herself. I’ll let you find out about her story from her own words:
“So, it finally happened… After years of frustrations, struggling with him… most importantly, with myself… I finally choose to leave everything behind for good, after I realise he’s not so into me anymore. He pulls away. He talks about “wanting to be on his own” and “wanting me to leave him because there is no turning back for us”… and everyone around him and my family knows that he wants me to leave him, except me. And yes, I am the last person to realise this. Burst into tears, heart broken… I feel him slip through my fingers.
Why is the world so cruel? I wonder if the universe just hates me for whatever I had done to myself… after days and weeks of feeling betrayed and remorse, covering myself with tears… I choose to stop hurting myself because of him, because of the mistakes I made in my life. There is no failure… and they are just a series of life lessons that had happened for me.
And it only takes me 3 weeks to pull myself out of this shitty feelings and thoughts… I was lost during those 3 weeks… I was broken from poor decisions I made because of a lack of guidance previously in my life. I did not set standards for myself and I did not value myself. And that is why things went worst. It’s okay though, I can forgive myself now…
I have such a unique view of life from most people of my age, I appreciated myself with this gift. I cherish my weirdness. And I enjoy playing games of life. -Kay Chong
I could never be able to have such a quick mindset shift without the help of my Amasssing accountability partners and great friends (Jane, Simone, Jacque, Irene, Tamara, Phoebe, Shirley, Eleni, Michelle B., and so many more) that I had met in Amasssing Ladies Retreat. Thanks to one of my greatest mentors, whom is also my dearest, beautiful friend of mine, Sandra Bravo, the founder of amasssing.com. Sandra has an amasssing soul. I feel so grateful that Universe still loves me and brought her to me. Sandra taught me the importance of self-love, self-care, to reconnect with myself and with Mother Nature. She helps me rebuild my self-confidence and self-esteem after the dark tunnel time… I feel a lot more stronger than I realise. I have overcome all of the obstacles that have been on my path thus far, and I have come out strong. And that, was by choice.
A lot of people have come into my life, and a lot of people have walked out of it. It hurt for a long time, and it felt like childhood all over again. I never really got to speak my piece to everybody, and that bothered me, because the same thing seemed to keep happening to me. I just have to let it all go. I need to change myself.
People come into my life for me. To teach me what I need to know about myself. -Kay Chong
And here’s the first letter that I curated for myself, after I decided to choose to stop blaming myself and hurting myself.
From this moment forward, I will accept responsibility for my past. I understand that the beginning of wisdom is to accept the responsibility for my own problems and that by accepting responsibility for my past, I free myself to move into a bigger, brighter future of my own choosing.
Never again will I blame my parents, my siblings, my ex, my ex family, my boss, or other employees for my present situation. Neither my education nor lack of one, my genetics, or the circumstantial ebb and flow of everyday life will affect my future in a negative way. If I allow myself to blame these uncontrollable forces for my lack of success, I will be forever caught in a web of the past. I will look forward. I will not let my history control my destiny.
The buck stops here. I accept responsibility for my past. I am responsible for my success. I am where I am today–mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally, and financially–because of decisions I have made. My decisions have always been governed by my thinking. Therefore, I am where I am today, because of how I feel.
Today is the day. Today I will begin the process of changing where I am–mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally, financially–by changing the way I think.
My thoughts will be constructive, never destructive. My mind will live in the solutions of the future. It will not dwell in the problems of the past. I will seek the association of those who are working and striving to bring about positive changes in the world. I will never seek comfort by associating with those who have decided to be comfortable.
When I faced with the opportunity to make a decision, I will make one. I understand that universe did not put me in the ability to always make right decisions. Universe did, however, put me in the ability to make a decision and then make it right. The rise and fall of my emotional tide will not deter me from my course.
Universe did not put me in the ability to always make right decisions. Universe did, however, put me in the ability to make a decision and then make it right. – Andy Andrew, The Traveler’s Gift.
When I make a decision, I will stand behind it. My energy will go into making the decision. I will waste none on second thoughts. My life will not be an apology. It will be a statement. I control my thoughts. I control my emotions. I control my actions. I control my results and destiny.
In times of adversity, I will not have a problem to deal with; I will have a choice to make. My thoughts will be clear. I will make the right choice. Adversity is preparation for greatness. I will accept this preparation. I will be prepared for something great! And the buck stops here. I love you, Kay.
Have faith that my prayers will be answered. Get some sleep. Take care of yourself. Do routine workouts. Eat Organic Foods. Practice mindfulness. Read every great book you can get. Listen to your inner self-talk. Correct it back with love whenever it falls out of track. Meditate. Live at the moment. Be kind to yourself. Be happy. Be awesome. Be amasssing. Be sexy. Be fun. Pursue your dreams. Follow your true callings and life purposes. Take massive actions towards your goals. Never lose your rock and roll.
Laugh often. Love again. Love passionately. Live freely.
Beautiful right? – Join us for our November AMASSSING YOU Ladies Retreat in Cancun to meet wonderful people like Kay and many other like minded amasssing ladies that will love and support you in your journey. So exciting!