3 Types of Negative People You Should Avoid

3 Types of Negative People You Should Avoid

Think of all of the people with whom you work or interact on a regular basis. Have you ever met Mr. Negative, The Critic or The Victim? I bet you’re picturing one of these folks right now. I know I am. You’ll find them everywhere, in meetings torpedoing the most innovative ideas or holding court around the office water cooler. Hope you will never see one in the mirror.

In my book Rule #1 Don’t Be #2, I discuss the importance of doing everything you can to avoid negative people. Pessimists spread negativity like the flu, and you must limit exposure. The risk in listening to naysayers is that your own thoughts might begin to echo what they’re saying. They have the power to adversely affect not only your outlook, but your company’s culture, reputation and bottom line.

Let’s take a closer look so you’ll be able to sidestep them whenever possible.

Mr. Negative

Mr. Negative seems to have a problem for every solution and loves to drain enthusiasm from any new idea. His mantra is the deadly “This is the way it’s always been done.” He’s mired in the status quo like a car stuck in mud, spinning his wheels. When a window of opportunity opens, he’ll pull down the shade. He will zap your energy and slow your momentum. You won’t want to add this person to your team or spend time socializing with them. You can’t expect to lead a positive life if you surround yourself with negative people.

The Critic

Critics are known for finding something derogatory to say about everyone, and they are especially famous for trading confidential or negative information about others. Critics use gossip to bond with and control small-minded people. Make sure you’re never tempted to engage in their shenanigans, for everyone is fair game, including you. Critics are threatened by talented go-getters, and the greater the talent, the louder the criticism, which they hope will draw the spotlight away from their own unimpressive résumés. Never let anyone who has done nothing tell you how to do anything.

The Victim

Never able to accept personal responsibility, life seems chronically unfair to Victims. The test questions were worded badly. There was never a real shot at the promotion that went to the boss’s favorite. The deck is always stacked against Victims, and they have nothing but bad luck. They haven’t figured out yet that hard work puts you in a place where good luck can find you, and they are famous for putting in little effort. You’ll recognize them by their signature excuses.

At the same time we’re weeding out these doubters from our lives and companies, it’s equally important we surround ourselves with positive people. Their character traits and habits are also contagious, but in a good way. Whether you’re building a leadership team or cleaning house in your social circle, look for the encouragers and believers, the high-energy movers and shakers who don’t have “can’t” in their vocabulary. Surround yourself with people who dream bigger than you do. They passionately improve everything in their path, from processes and products to colleagues and employees. They believe anything is possible, and they’ll believe in you.

Never aspire to be the best on the team. Aspire to be the best forthe team.

 The most important attitude to watch, of course, is our own. We can’t always change the people or circumstances in our lives, but we can always change our response. Excellence is not a skill; it is an attitude, and positive thinking breeds courageous habits.

Whenever you have the opportunity, become the encourager and motivate others. Never aspire to be the best on the team. Aspire to be the best for the team. Spotlight-stealers and credit-takers don’t typically rise up the leadership ladder. Promotions are reserved for those who demonstrate service to their team and to their company. It’s often said that if service is beneath you, leadership is beyond you.

As I always say, success is never owned. It’s rented, and the rent is due every day. Build the right team. They’ll help you pay the rent.




source: success.com

How to Ask for (and Get) Everything You Want

How to Ask for (and Get) Everything You Want

The best way of getting what you want is thinking about your request before you actually make it.

The big reason many people fail to get what they want is that they are too afraid to ask or they view their requests as all-or-nothing gambits—instead of a series of negotiations and compromises.

But there is a middle ground. Here are strategies to help you begin the “asking” process and avoid becoming upset if things don’t go exactly as planned.

Steps to Success

1. Tell yourself there is nothing to fear except fear itself.

Fear of punishment or rejection is why most people hesitate to ask for what they want. They are afraid that going out on an emotional limb will result in humiliation if they fail.

Strategy: Before making your request, take plenty of time to remind yourself of the importance of what you are asking for. Tell yourself the only thing that matters is whether or not you are making good and well-articulated points. By focusing on the merits of your request, not on how you will appear to others, many of your initial fears will fade away.

2. Before you try to sell others, sell yourself.

Two of the most important elements involved in asking for what you want—and-getting it—are self-confidence and determination. Unless you believe in your heart that you will eventually win over the other side, you will likely falter or become troubled at the first sign of resistance.

Strategy: An extreme emotional reaction to any hurdle will almost certainly doom your mission, causing the other side to take you and your points less seriously.

Tell yourself from the outset that you may not immediately get what you want. The statement is not the same as saying that you will never succeed, which could hurt your morale and determination. Instead, you are merely facing reality—accepting the fact that you may face a setback. By acknowledging this possibility, you will not be surprised or upset if you are turned down.

3. Organize your thoughts.

You can’t expect to get the results you want if the other side doesn’t understand your request.

Strategy: Write out exactly what you want. Then redraft your points until your reasoning is clear, ordered and can be easily related. Practice in front of a mirror, or discuss the points with friends to be sure they make sense and you didn’t leave anything out.

4. When you ask, ask from your heart.

Important requests are always better received when those making them are passionate, friendly, polite and firm. Such a stance is difficult to resist. It increases your odds of success… or at least minimizes the chance that your personality or attitude will sabotage your request.

Strategy: Ask in an enthusiastic manner and voice. Maintain steady eye contact to show that you mean business, but also exhibit respect and admiration for the person to whom you are speaking. In general, you stand a much better chance of getting what you want when you make people feel at ease and show them that you are truly excited about what you are requesting.

5. Prepare to deal with resistance.

Even if you do everything right, you might still meet resistance. The person you are asking might want to confer with someone else before he/she makes a final decision… or he may want to table his answer, hoping that you’ll retreat from your position once you have had some time to think about it… or he might just say no.

Strategy: If someone resists or challenges your request, be polite and gracious. Do not lose your temper or become discouraged. Instead of seeing the other person’s resistance as a dead end, view it as part of a continuing conversation. Translate every no into a next. Realize a no doesn’t mean stop—it simply means not yet.

6. Learn the art of saying thank you.

Whether or not you get what you want, say thank you. Gratitude will leave the other person open to giving you what you want—or more of what you want—sometime in the future.

Strategy: Say thank you directly to the person and follow up with a written note. In some cases, flowers or a gift may be appropriate.

Learning the art of expressing gratitude will force you to focus on the positive. It will also keep you from holding a grudge, which is difficult to hide and only works against you in the long run.



Source: success.com

Success Must Be Attracted, Not Pursued

Success Must Be Attracted, Not Pursued

Personal value is the magnet that attracts all good things into our lives. The greater our value, the greater our reward. Since the solution for having more is becoming more, we must be in constant search for new ways to increase our value.

All of these are examples of ways in which our value can be increased.

It is the acquisition of more value that we must pursue, not more valuables. Our objective must be to work harder on ourselves than we work on anything else. By giving careful attention to our philosophy, our attitude and our activity, we are making a positive contribution to what we are becoming, and in the process of becoming more than we now are we will attract more than we now have.

We become and then we attract. We grow personally and then we advance materially. Unfortunately, the vast majority seems to have the plan reversed. Their philosophy is this: “If I had more money, I would be a better person.” But that’s not the way life is designed to work. Having more doesn’t make us more. It merely magnifies what we already are. Those who cannot save a few pennies out of meager earnings will never be able to save dollars out of future fortunes. The same discipline it takes to put a few coins in a jar every week is the same discipline it takes to open a savings account or manage an investment portfolio.

Conversation about our intended progress will only take us so far and promises about the future will only buy us a little time. Promises must soon be matched by performance. If the results do not appear in a reasonable amount of time we run the risk of losing the trust of others in addition to our own self-respect. We may find that those who once believed no longer believe, and we will one day be left only with our well-intentioned, but unfulfilled, pronouncements. A loss of this magnitude is worth preventing. It is on the day when we discover our losses that we will taste the bitter pill of neglect. It is on that day when we will finally experience the agonizing consequences of self-delusion, procrastination and unkept promises.

Will we read the books, make the plans, make good use of time, invest a portion of all that we earn, polish our current skills, attend classes to develop new skills and get around better people in order to improve our chances for success? Will we tell the truth, improve our ability to communicate, use our journals and give careful attention to all the virtues that success requires? Or will we be content to let the time slip through our fingers like grains of sand while we slowly lose self-confidence, the respect of others, and perhaps even the few possessions and valuable relationships that our past efforts have managed to attract into our lives? Will we go on sitting idly by while our dreams diminish to memories, as hope gives way to remorse?

Surely not.


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September 4, 2016
Want to Be Successful? Do These 7 Things in Your Spare Time

Want to Be Successful? Do These 7 Things in Your Spare Time

Want to Be Successful? Do These 7 Things in Your Spare Time

Did you know startups fail about four times as often as they succeed? Do you know why it’s so hard to get a successful business off the ground? It’s attributable to a number of factors, one of which could be the way the founders are spending their spare time.

The productivity you can generate in your free time often carries over into the success of your professional endeavors, and you can bet that successful people use their free time for much more than relaxing on the couch or binging on Netflix.

If you’re struggling to find success as an entrepreneur, you might want to take a closer look at how you spend your time away from the office. Consider replacing some of your less productive habits with ones with better benefits:

1. Exercise

Working out is good for both the body and the mind. According to various studies, people who exercise 30 minutes a day, five times a week, enjoy better overall brain health, including uplift in mood, reduced stress, increased creativity and clearer thinking. Exercise is the best thing you can do to stay alert and alive while you run your business.

2. Hobbies

Have you ever noticed that some of the most successful people you know also lead rather interesting lifestyles outside of work? That comes largely from the personal pastimes they choose to enjoy. Hobbies are a good outlet for stress and an excellent source of creativity.

3. Learning

Success often means fostering a love of learning. If you want to inspire a love of learning inside yourself, learn something new. Some people like to learn languages; others like to keep up with the latest technological investments. Most learn something that will be useful to them in their careers, such as IT basics. A strong atmosphere of learning new things can help increase personal and business productivity by 37 percent.

With online tutorials, web-based informational courses and apps that offer assistance with just a few taps, you don’t have an excuse not to learn something new

4. Mindfulness

There’s a reason yoga has become one of the most popular health practices today: Mindfulness can help you relax, improve productivity, facilitate creativity and maintain your general overall well-being.

It’s important to note that practicing mindfulness does not necessarily mean doing yoga or even meditating, though both of those practices will do the job. It could simply mean sitting in stillness for 20 minutes twice a day, or leaning back in your chair, staring up at the ceiling and forgetting the world for 10 minutes.

5. Service

If you’re losing sight of perspective and what matters to you most, take an opportunity to serve the less fortunate. Giving back to your community helps you to think about things besides work, which may enable you to evaluate how to improve your business. It’s the best way to put your life into perspective and reduce the stress that comes from constantly focusing on your own problems.

6. Reading

The best way to stay up to date with the activities of prosperous individuals is to read. Whether you’re keeping up on the latest news, studying a business-oriented self-help book or reading the biography of a successful person you admire, reading can help boost your creativity, improve your thought processes at work and enable you to de-stress after a long day.

7. Family

Take a break every now and then to devote your entire attention to those you love most. For just a few hours a week, stop thinking about the things that happen at work and enjoy what’s going on at home. Healthy, happy and profitable people understand that taking a break with their loved ones keeps them sane as they climb the ladder of success.




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September 6, 2017
Here’s Why You Haven’t Achieved Your Goal Yet

Here’s Why You Haven’t Achieved Your Goal Yet

Simply put, successful people are goal-setters. Goal-setting applies to every area of our lives. We set goals for our careers, relationships, families, finances, etc. Our ultimate goals, however, set the course for our lives. The ultimate goals define the direction that we go in.

Unfortunately, some people never achieve their ultimate goals in life. They limit their self-confidence and they limit themselves.

Identify Your Limiting Step

One of the most valuable exercises you can engage in when setting long-term goals is to ask yourself, “What is my limiting step?”

What is the one factor that determines the speed at which I achieve my goal? Or can I achieve it at all throughout my personal development?
The ability to identify your limiting step is one of the best demonstrations of your intelligence. It is a huge step towards building self-confidence.

Your capacity to eliminate this limiting step is one of the best demonstrations of your overall competence.  You can achieve anything you want.

Self-Confidence Is The Critical Factor

In studying everything that has been written or said about personal development and success, I’ve come to a conclusion.  Your level of self-confidence is the critical factor in everything you accomplish. When you have enough self-confidence, you will try almost anything.

Because success is largely a matter of averages or probabilities, the more things you try, the more likely it is that you will achieve them.

The same is true for you. By setting goals, trying more things, and exploring more opportunities, your probabilities of success increase dramatically. The only real limiting step to success that you might have is your level of self-confidence.

When you reach the point at which you believe in yourself fully, the barriers that exist in your external world will not stop you.

Build Your Self-Confidence

The major obstacles to success always lie within the mind of the individual.

They are not contained in external circumstances, situations or people. By building self-confidence, you win the inner battle. The outer battle seems to take care of itself.

I have learned three important ideas for building self-confidence. First, accept complete responsibility for everything that you are and ever will be.

Second, accept that you can change your situation only by working on yourself. Learn what it takes to be better. Third, set goals with timelines for the things you want. Then, work every day to bring those goals into reality.

Practice Persistently

Our natural tendency is to work hard until we find a method or technique that works for us. Whether that be in life, work, or relationships. Then, for some perverse reason, we promptly abandon the technique and go back to behaving in our old ways.

Setting goals and thinking positively act as a mental program for our personal development. Just like an exercise program works on our physical development.

If you expect it to work for you, you have to practice it persistently and keep at it indefinitely.

Apply The Success Principles To Your Own Life

When I began to apply these proven success principles to my life, I was able to bring about almost miraculous changes in every area of my life.

Every successful man or woman that I have ever talked to or read about has come to pretty much the same conclusion. By every measure, you have more talent and ability than you could use in 100 lifetimes.

You, too, can step on the accelerator of your own potential and begin moving forward at a speed that will amaze you by setting goals.

What is one goal that you have always wanted to achieve, but been too afraid to go after?

Leave a comment below, and I’ll be sure to follow up with you.

What’s Precious To You?

What’s Precious To You?

What’s Precious To You?

Sacred, has two meanings. One means spirituality, the other something precious.


The Practice: 
Find what’s sacred.


The word, sacred, has two kinds of meanings. First, it can refer to something related to religion or spirituality. Second, more broadly, it can refer to something that one cherishes, that is precious, to which one is respectfully, even reverently, dedicated, such as honesty with one’s life partner, old growth redwoods, human rights, the light in a child’s eyes, or longings for truth and justice and peace.

Both senses of the word touch me deeply. But many people relate to just one meaning, which is fine. You can apply what I’m saying here to either or both meanings.

I think each one of us – whether theist, agnostic, or atheist – needs access to whatever it is, in one’s heart of hearts, that feels most precious and most worthy of protection. Imagine a life in which nothing was sacred to you – or to anyone else. To me, such a life would be barren and gray.

Sure, some terrible actions have been taken in the name of avowedly sacred things. But terrible actions have been taken for all kinds of other reasons as well; the notion of the sacred is not a uniquely awful source of bad behavior. And just because some people actbadly in the name of something does not alter whatever is good in that something.

Opening to what’s sacred to you contains an implicit stand that there really are things that stand apart in their significance to you. What may be most sacred is the possibility of the sacred!

If you’re like me, you don’t stay continually aware of what’s most dear to you. But when you come back to it – maybe there is a reminder, perhaps at the birth of a child, or at a wedding or a funeral, or walking deep in the woods – there’s a sense of coming home, of “yes,” of knowing that this really matters and deserves my honoring and protection and care.


For an overview, notice how you feel about the idea of “sacred.” Are there mixed feelings about it? How has the rise of religious fundamentalism worldwide over the past several decades – or the culture wars in general – affected your attitudes toward “sacred”? In your own life, have you been told that certain things were sacred that you no longer believe in? Do you feel you have the right to name what is sacred to you even if it is not sacred to others? Taking a little time to sort this out for yourself, maybe also by talking with others, can clear the decks so that you can know what’s sacred for you.

In this clearing, there are many ways to identify what is sacred for someone. Maybe you already know. You could also find a place or time that is particularly peaceful or meaningful – perhaps on the edge of the sea, or curled up with tea in a favorite chair, or in a church or temple – and softly raise questions in your mind like these: What’s sacred? What inspires awe? A feeling of protection? Reverence? A sense of something holy?

Different answers come to different people. And they may be wordless. For many, what’s most sacred is transcendent, numinous, and beyond language

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Why It’s Okay to Say You’re Not Fine

Why It’s Okay to Say You’re Not Fine

Let’s stop pretending we don’t have opinions and raise our voices.

A friend recently told me she was feeling lost. Her youngest child had just left for college, and with him had gone her meaning and purpose. The night before, her husband had asked her, “Honey, now that you can do whatever you want with your life, what do you want to do?” She didn’t know what to say. She just stared at him, thinking, I don’t know what I want for dinner—forget about what to do with my life. I have no idea. How can I even start to figure it out? 

When someone invites me to think about what I want, I try to pause, take a moment to be still, and check in with my inner self until a kind of knowing rises and points the way. 

Some call that voice intuition; others say it’s God, or wisdom. One person I know refers to the voice as Sebastian. The point is, what we call it doesn’t matter; what’s important is that we hear it. 

But women are taught that the way to be successful and attractive to the world is to be selfless. From an early age, we are conditioned to ignore the voice within when considering who we are and what our goals are, and instead to look outward—to our family, friends, church, community, and even our critics. In a million different ways we ask them: What should I want? What should I be? And the more our inner whispers fade from disuse, the more our bodies speak up, trying to get our attention. We get tired. We get sick. We can’t sleep. And we ignore these voices, too. If you refuse to listen to anybody long enough, she’ll stop speaking. Which is why one day we realize we have lost our way. 

My teenage son and his friends were hanging out in our family room one weekend, and I popped in and asked, “Are you hungry?” The boys kept their eyes on the screen and yelled “Yes!” in unison, while the girls paused—searched one another’s faces—then smiled and said, “We’re fine.” See what happened there? The boys checked in with their stomachs. The girls checked in with each other. A while later, I tried again: “Girls, I’ve got pizza and chicken. What do you want?” There was a long silence while two of them looked over at the third. She paused, smiled politely, and said, “Sorry. I don’t care. Whatever they’re having is fine.” 

That’s when I decided we needed to have a little chat. I thought of the countless times I’ve apologized for no reason and said I was fine when I wasn’t. When we shrug and say we don’t care, it’s usually a lie. Every girl cares. We’ve just been taught not to expose ourselves by showing it. What the world needs now is girls and women who aren’t afraid to care—who are done saying “whatever.”

I called the girls into the other room and sat them down on the couch. I told them they’d learned some rules about being a girl, that the world’s taught them that girls aren’t supposed to be hungry, have opinions, make decisions, or say what’s on their mind until they’ve gathered permission and consensus. I pointed out that every time I’d asked them what they wanted, they looked at the boys or one another, pretending they didn’t know in an effort to make everyone else happy. I reminded them it’s not their job to get smaller in voice and opinion and body—to disappear—in order to accommodate others. Their voices and opinions are important, I told them, so they need to figure out what they want, believe it on the inside, and speak it on the outside. And then I said, “Okay, let’s practice. Do you really believe boys should go ahead and eat and want and decide everything while you just sit on the floor and watch them?” 

One of the girls looked down, and then at me, and said, “No. I’m always hungry when I say I’m not.” 

“Me, too,” I said. “I’m always hungry, too. And I’m usually not so fine, either. Let’s stop saying things that aren’t true.” 

The second girl said, “I don’t know how to know what I want.” 

I said, “Sometimes, in the beginning, you have to trick your inner voice into yelling so you can start to recognize it.” 

I went through my purse, found a coin, and held it up. 

“Get ready,” I said. “I’m going to flip this coin. If it’s heads, we’re having pizza. If it’s tails, chicken. While it’s in the air, call out how you want it to land.” And before they could think, I flipped the coin. All three girls yelled out “Heads!” without pausing or looking at one another. 

“There it is,” I said. “There’s your self. You didn’t have time to overthink or consult everyone else in the room.” The coin toss is a way to trick your inner voice into screaming until you can hear it whispering. I use it to ask myself what I want instead of asking the world what it wants from me. It helps me forget about being perfect and focus instead on being free. 

I think they got it, although it was hard to tell amid the noise of girls chomping on pizza. 


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Glennon Doyle Melton is the author of Love Warrior, a 2016 Oprah’s Book Club Pick; the founder of the online community Momastery; and the creator of the nonprofit Together Rising.

3 Keys to Becoming Wealthy

3 Keys to Becoming Wealthy

Plan for tomorrow instead of living for today.


A man I knew had an MBA from Harvard and an engineering degree from MIT. Smart guy. When he retired, he started doing what he liked best: teaching college courses in economics and business planning. But when he taught economics, he also taught personal economics. This is the philosophy that he started his classes with: Decide how you want to live now, versus how long you want to work.

This means that if you spend everything you make now, you’ll have no choice but to work longer and harder. But if you start investing in your financial future now, you’ll have many choices. You can retire early, travel more, continue your career or start a new career later in life. Once again, it all comes down to choices. Think tomorrow today… and live better tomorrow.

Here’s the next thing to think of when you’re planning your future of wealth: Be careful with your credit cards. Selling money is big business. You probably get invitations in the mail to sign up for a new credit card a couple of times a month! Having some credit cards is important. Especially if you travel. They’re safer and easier to track than cash.

But be careful; credit is the easiest way to get into debt. When you buy something with a little piece of plastic, you don’t feel the effect until you get the bill. So make sure that whatever you buy, you’re still happy with your purchase after you get the bill.

Make sure that whatever you buy, you’re still happy with your purchase after you get the bill.

Here’s another point to remember in becoming financially independent: It’s hard to get rich quickly. It’s easy to get rich slowly. It doesn’t happen overnight. With conservative investments, it takes a while. It takes discipline to keep adding value to your future, a little every month. It takes time to build your fortune and become wealthy.

There’s a saying about investing: “Time, not timing.” It takes time. If playing the stock market is what you do, then you know that timing is a whole different ball game. But for the average person, it’s time.

A study was done a while back that analyzed stock market investments. The study took two scenarios into consideration. In the first scenario, stocks were bought at the very worst possible time and sold at the very worst possible time. Bough high and sold low. And after 40 years, the average return was around 10 percent. Scenario one dealt with time.

In the second scenario, stocks were analyzed over a 10-year period. Stocks were purchased at the best possible time and sold at the best possible time. After 10 years, the average return was… about 10 percent. The second scenario dealt with timing. So timing might not be all it’s cracked up to be.

Be patient in building your financial independence. It will come small steps at a time. It’s hard to be patient sometimes, but it’s just like achieving your goals: It happens one step at a time. 

What about those situations when patience has nothing to do with becoming wealthy? What about those trust-fund babies who are handed their financial independence on a silver platter? They never have to work a day in their lives, if that’s what they choose. Their first car is a Porsche. Their first house is a mansion. Their first job is at their father’s company. What about those people born rich?

Some guy says, “It isn’t fair that I’m working like crazy all day, all week, all month, all my life…. It just isn’t fair! I’ll never have that kind of money.” Well, some things aren’t fair. Inheriting money might not seem fair. But what does that have to do with you? Really?

If your dream is to have greater wealth than some people you know, then you’d better start working harder and smarter on your own goals, your own visions, and stop pondering what’s fair and what isn’t. Start examining what’s keeping you back instead of what’s keeping them ahead. Start looking at what you’re doing. There are plenty of stories and examples and experiences of people who began their careers destitute and had enough resolve to do it until they had more than they ever dreamed of. Study the experiences of others who built their way to the top instead of those born there. And you’ll not only reach the top, you’ll truly deserve it.

Adapted from Leading an Inspired Life

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Jim Rohn
January 15, 2017
5 Leadership Styles To Inspire Peak Performance

5 Leadership Styles To Inspire Peak Performance

5 Leadership Styles To Inspire Peak Performance

What qualities and management styles do great managers possess to inspire and motivate their employees to deliver at their peak performance? The job of the manager is to get things done by leading others to success. Use these 5 leadership styles to get the most out of your employees.

It is important to develop management styles that suit different situations. Each leader has their own leadership styles and it is your job to inspire your employees to deliver at their peak performance.  Your ability to organize the work and to supervise your staff effectively to get the job done on schedule and on budget is the key to getting the results for which you are responsible.

The Best Management Styles

According to numerous surveys of employees in the work world, the best bosses and supervisors possess three management styles:

1. Structure. Everyone knows exactly what needs to be done, why it is to be done, and to what standard.
2. Consideration. The boss makes employees feel that he or she really cares about them.
3. Freedom. Good bosses give their people freedom to perform. Once they have assigned a task, they try to stay out of the way, except to comment and to help when needed.

Discovering Your Leadership Styles

One of your jobs as the leader is to be a teacher. The reason you are in charge is because of your leadership styles and your superior level of knowledge and skill. If you would like to continue to develop your management styles and master your true talents download my free report “Discovering Your Talents.”  One of the most helpful things you do is to pass on your knowledge and skill to those who report to you. Teach other people how to do the job that you have already mastered. You multiply your output by teaching someone else how to do something that only you can do. And you increase their value to the business.

The 5 Keys To Inspire Peak Performance

1. Accept complete responsibility for your staff. You choose them, you assign them, and you manage them. You are responsible for your staff to operate at their peak performance.

2. Look upon your staff with the same patience and understanding as you would look upon younger members of your family.

3. Practice the Friendship Factor with them, which is composed of three components: time, care, and respect. Give staff time when they want to talk. Express care and concern for them and their problems. Treat them with respect, the same way you would treat a customer or friend.

4. Practice Servant Leadership, by seeing your job as a position of trust with your subordinates. Just as they are there to serve you and the company, you are there to serve them, as well.

5. Practice Golden Rule Management. Treat each person the way you would like to be treated if the situation were reversed. When you practice Golden Rule Management—you manage other people the way you would like to be managed—you will elicit peak performance from your employees more than in any other way.

Get What You Need Out Of Your Employees

By using and developing these techniques and leadership styles you will notice a change in your employees work. By practicing these management styles you will bring your team to great success, increase productivity in the workplace and inspire peak performance in your employees.

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Magical Thinking

Magical Thinking

Magical Thinking

The link between spirituality and a successful recovery.

Early in my medical career, when I began recognizing the life-destroying consequences of addiction in my patients, I fell into magical thinking. I was sure addiction was a bad habit, one that could be fixed by a little will power and a motivating lecture from me.

After I learned that addiction was a disease with a well-established treatment plan, there were still elements of magical thinking. I accepted the standard thinking of the day that a thirty-day treatment program followed by AA and NA meetings was all anyone needed to start on the road to recovery—and stay there.

Today, we know that thirty days sober is often just long enough to create chaos in the brain of an addicted individual. We also know that the true benefits of 12-Step programs come not from mere attendance but from the deepening of spiritual practices to which these programs can lead, such as prayer, meditation, and careful working of the 12-Steps.

Working with my co-author James B., as well as homeless addicted men, I have come to believe that the process of recovery is a long slow journey, with many stops and starts. The brokenness of body and spirit that James describes so well in The Craving Brain: Science, Spirituality and the Road to Recovery, and in his other writings here, are neither easily nor quickly repaired.

Uncontrollable craving is a brain injury caused by frequent exposure to high levels of addicting chemicals. The addicted brain is focused on keeping the brain supplied with sufficient levels of alcohol or other drugs to avoid the unbearable agitation of withdrawal. It is never easy to manage an addiction on top of the demands of ordinary life, and addicted individuals develop compulsive strategies and behaviors that further impair the brain’s delicate wiring. In the process, they damage—sometimes irreparably—their personal and professional lives.

How is it possible then to recover from this terrible, circular disorder, with its comprehensive injury to the body, mind, and spirit? How can the rewired addicted brain be rewired again, this time in the service of a healthy and productive life?

The emerging partnership between medical science and spiritual practices provides some important answers. Although there is no magic bullet, researchers are discovering new drugs to help addicted individuals control their craving. These drugs include naltrexone for alcohol addiction and methadone for prescription pill and heroin addiction.

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