Today we’ll be inspired once again by our lovely amasssing contributorKay Chong. that has shared another piece of beautiful content and it reads as follows:
We all bear witness to the #achievements of great people…and many of us look on in envy thinking “if only I could be like that…” The reality is, the success of great people has a formula. A Formula that you, yourself can master too. This is the true essence of #detoxing our mind and bodies, to remove the negative factors (like environment or food) that we are putting into our bodies everyday. That hold us back, that set artificial limitations on what we can accomplish.
I’m here to tell you the truth: your #success is determined by the attitude you approach life with, the environment you choose to surround yourself with and the effort you’re willing to put in. Without a great #attitude, the road to success is burdensome and tiring. Without passion on what you are doing, you will be exhausted and easily give up.
Without great people surrounding you, being a #positive influence on your life and serving as #RoleModels, the path to success is troublesome, and without great effort and great #actions to act upon the opportunities you are given, you will never move on or never #change.
I’m here to tell you that once, I was like you… caught up in the negativity and unaccomplished. And I’m here to tell you, that like me, you too can own your own life, gain back your own health, and be as successful as you want to be. If only you have the #courage to walk the path and be #amasssing.
I get it. Life isn’t always smooth sailing. Sometimes all you can do is to row and keep going… until a certain point in life, you might feel tired… mentally, physically, and even emotionally exhausted as people around you are not as supportive as you think it might be. I have been to this point in my life too… yet, I never allow myself to stop at this point of my life, instead, I ask myself what should I do next? What’s next?
First, Letting go of Self-Blaming…
Forgiving Yourself and Greet New Day With A Forgiving Spirit. Forgiving yourself for the choices that you’ve made in the past that lead to who you are today and the health conditions or body shape today. You can reverse things that seems like bad odds in your hand, by first letting go of self blaming and then forgive yourself.
Here’s one of the 7 decisions for success before you dive into commitment to change for better health. You can study one decision at a time, each for 21 days. You will read it aloud twice daily during that time. Upon awakening and as the last thing you do before you sleep. You must not miss a day. Each decision will become a part of your being, unstuck the bad energy and guilty thoughts that stopping you to do what you want to do, buried in your heart, captured in your soul.
For too long, every ounce of forgiveness I owned was locked away, hidden from view, waiting for me to bestow its precious presence upon some worthy person. Alas, I found most people to be singularly unworthy of my valuable forgiveness, and since they never asked for any, I kept it all for myself.Now, the forgiveness that I hoarded has sprouted inside my heart like a crippled seed yielding bitter fruit.
No more! At this moment, my life has taken on new hope and assurance. Of all the world’s population, I am one of the few possessors of the secret to dissipating anger and resentment in the past, and of other people’s opinions about me, how I looked like, and how should I behave. I now understand that forgiveness has value only when it is given away. By the simple act of granting forgiveness, I release the demons of the past about which I can do nothing about my health, my career, my financial status, and I create in myself a new heart, a new beginning.
I will greet this day with a forgiving spirit. I will forgive even those who do not ask for forgiveness.
Many are the times when I have seethed in anger at a word or deed thrown into my life by an unthinking or uncaring person. I have wasted valuable hours imagining revenge or confrontation. Now I see the truth revealed about this psychological rock inside my shoe. The rage I nurture is often one-sided, for my offender seldom gives thought to his offense!
I will now and forevermore silently offer my forgiveness even to those who do not see that they need it. By the act of forgiving, I am no longer consumed by unproductive thoughts. I give up my bitterness. I am content in my soul and effective again with my fellowman.
I will greet this day with a forgiving spirit. I will forgive those who criticize me unjustly.
Knowing that slavery in any form is wrong, I also know that the person who lives a life according to the opinion of others is a slave. I am not a slave. I have chosen my counsel. I know the difference between right and wrong. I know what is best for the future of my family, myself, and neither misguided opinion nor unjust criticism will alter my course.
Those who are critical of my goals and dreams simply do not understand the higher purpose to which I have been called. Therefore, their scorn does not affect my attitude or action. I forgive their lack of vision, and I forge ahead. I now know that criticism is part of the price paid for leaping past mediocrity.
I will greet this day with a forgiving spirit. I will forgive myself.
For many years, my greatest enemy has been myself. Every mistakes, every miscalculation, every wrong relationship, every wrong decision, every stumble I made has been replayed again and again in my mind. Every broken promise, everyday wasted, every goal not reached has compounded the disgust I feel for the lack of achievement in my life. My dismay has developed a paralyzing grip. When I disappoint myself, I respond with inaction and become more disappointed.
I realize today that it is impossible to fight an enemy living in my head. By forgiving myself, I erase the doubts, fears, and frustration that have kept my past in the present. From this day forward, my history will cease to control my destiny, because I have forgiven myself. My life has just begun.
I will forgive even those who do not ask for forgiveness. I will forgive those who criticise my unjustly. I will forgive myself. I will greet this day with a forgiving spirit.
Welcome to another week of AmaSSSing content! As you know we have been reviewing the eleven laws from Bob Proctor and Mary Morrissey and today we’re going to review the Law Of Forgiveness, so get excited and inspired to create your life by design!
The Law Of Forgiveness
Who in your life do you need to forgive?
Is it a friend, a family member, someone at work, or maybe you just have to forgive yourself?
This is a really exciting topic because you can make massive shifts and changes in your life and move into giant leaps by the simple fact of forgiving, forgiving yourself and forgiving others.
What does forgive, forgiving, forgiveness, mean to you?
Mary Morrissey has a really nice description that totally resonated with me: “Forgiveness is a shift in perception, that removes a block in me to my awareness of love’s presence.” That’s really powerful.
What is that saying to us? – It’s saying that if we’re not forgiving, either ourselves or others, we are creating a block that stops us from feeling the love from the Universe and everything and everyone that surrounds us. To her it means freedom, and I totally agree, because when you’re not forgiving, you’re locking yourself into prison.
Many times we think that by not forgiving we’re somehow punishing the person that did wrong to us, we think that what they did is just unforgivable. We want to hold onto that resentment and that, is doing nothing to them. They are still going on about their normal lives, being happy or miserable or however they are and it’s doing absolutely nothing to them.
Forgiveness is for you. It’s for you to set yourself free. “Forgive and you shall be forgiven.”
What happens when you don’t forgive?
When you don’t forgive someone it’s like a drop of poison that you’re expecting them to take, but they’re not. That drop of poison, you are taking it yourself. You need to forgive in order to release that poison that actually causes disease in your physical body, not just mentally.
Let me tell you that guilt and resentment are the two lowest vibrations of energy. They are like the worst emotions to have and we all have them from time to time. Every time we feel them, we are putting that poison inside us, and that poison shows up in the way of disease in your physical body.
Many times when you have any sort of disease in your body, you go to the specialist, the doctor, the practitioner, and they work on your body to heal that physical illness. What happens is that they’re just treating the symptoms. They’re not treating the root cause of that disease because that cause was created mentally, whether you’re aware of it or not. In most cases, you’ll find out that it comes from the feelings of guilt and resentment.
The Other Side Of Forgiveness
When you don’t forgive, you’re holding onto all that anger, resentment, frustration…and that blocks you from receiving any good from the Universe.
There is this test where they took a sample of saliva, blood and sweat from people feeling resentment, guilt and anger, and after analyzing all the ingredients they found out that the substance was poisoning!
Guilt came as a result of this test as being the worst emotion ever, being the lowest vibration of energy.
When you think about it, if you did something wrong or you hurt someone unintentionally and now you’re feeling guilty, guilt is not going to remove or change what you did. It’s already done. Guilt is not going to make you a better person. Guilt is not going to make you a hero, because you feel bad for what you did. Guilt is a worthless emotion. You don’t get anything from feeling it, so what’s the point in feeling it other than creating poison for yourself and creating disease?
Out of their studies they also realized that tumors and cancer are created from deeply suppressed guilt, anger, resentment, frustration, hatred, and guilt.
There’s no point in feeling them. It’s only your own benefit to forgive the other person, or to forgive yourself for anything that you might have done, so that you don’t have to feel that guilt, because a lot of it being bottled up and stuck in is going to cause disease in your body.
If you’re really angry about something that someone did because they really hurt you. It’s only in your best interest to look for help, to look for healing solutions, therapy, whatever it might be for you so that you can let it go. You want to release those negative emotions.
You want to forgive them, not because of them, but because of you. There’s a really good saying from Bob Proctor that I love that says: “There are certain people that is not safe for me to take a walk down the streets of my mind.”
When you think of those people you can straightaway feel the trigger in your body. You can feel your blood boiling and rushing through your body, because you start to feel all this anger and resentment and hatred and all these feelings because of whatever they did to you, so you want to clear all that, so that when you think of them, you think of them neutral, so that you are not putting any energy thinking in a negative way, or being resentful or angry towards them, because every time you do that you’re lowering your vibration of energy, you’re taking a drop of poison, and you’re putting disease in your body.
Forgiving ourselves is cleansing that mental field. It puts you into a high vibration of energy.
Your Challenge For The Week!
Please take some quiet time to ask yourself about:
Who do I need to forgive in my life in order to remove any feelings or emotions with a low vibration of energy like resentment, anger, guilt, etc?
What do I need to forgive myself from, so that I can remove any feelings of guilt within myself?
I want you to write it down and to do it today, spend some time meditating in peace and quiet with yourself. So you can set yourself free to remove those blocks, start vibrating at a higher vibration of energy and finally be free to start enjoying and attracting some fantastic good, abundance, and prosperity into your life!
Welcome to another week of AmaSSSing content! As you know we have been reviewing the 11 Laws from Bob Proctor and Mary Morrissey and today we are going to talk about the Law of Non-Resistance.
The Law of Non-Resistance
This is really exciting because you have probably experienced situations where you feel that you really want to manifest something in your life and you feel like you’re working towards it and meditating and visualizing and putting it on your vision board, then somehow you do something to sabotage last minute and you push it back. That is because you are creating RESISTANCE.
Why do you create resistance?
Because, unfortunately as human beings we are wired to push back. Our conditioning in our subconscious is wired to create a resistance and push the good back from us. It doesn’t come to us natural to accept what comes to us, so unfortunately that’s something that we consciously have to create.
What’s the difference between REACTION and RESPONSE for you?
While you go ahead and think about it, I’m going to tell you what it is for me:
We are conditioned to react in our mindset, in our subconscious, and reacting means having an automatic habit. We don’t have to think about it, it’s ingrained in our subconscious and we are just set to react automatically,
Right? You get triggered, something upsets us and bam, we jump onto it straight away and we go, “Oh! I wish I never said that, I wish I never did that or I wish I never reacted that way,” because we don’t think about it, we just let that reaction come up automatically.
Now, the difference is that a response requires us to think. That’s why so many times it’s so much easier just to react and let our instincts go because that’s what’s ingrained in our subconscious. We have been conditioned to react. That’s our paradigm, our natural default.
In order to respond and not react, we need to hold back. Stop the reaction as it’s trying to come out, hold it there and take a moment to think.
When you think then you can respond responsibly instead of just reacting with our emotions, because we’re ladies right? We are very emotional and whatever is ingrained in our subconscious, anything that triggers us from something that happened to us in the past, we’re automatically going to react and come up with a reaction that we might not like and we might not be proud of afterwards.
We are conditioned to react and reacting is creating resistance. Our subconscious is trying to react and resist.
How do you create resistance?
Let’s think about this. For example, let’s say you’re in the traffic on the freeway and what happens? You are resisting the traffic. You’re starting to get grumpy, you’re complaining, “Oh, this traffic, oh my god I hate it, I’m going to be late, It’s so stressful.” You’re resisting. You’re battling. You’re coming up against the traffic. There’s nothing you can do, you can’t change the traffic, but you can change how you react to the traffic that’s on the freeway. How can you take advantage of that and not resist it, to avoid that resistance that you’re putting against the traffic? Well, you can listen to something very inspirational.
I remember when I used to live in Melbourne and I still had a full-time job, a 9 to 5, and once I moved from the branches that I was managing at Flight Center, I moved to head office, and on a non-traffic day that’s an easy 30, 40 minute drive, but on a weekday at the peak hour, it could take me anywhere from an hour to two and a half hours to get there. I knew I was prepared for it. I used to put my earphones I just put in the car and just listen to motivational stuff, personal development stuff; anything that’s to do with the mindset. As you might know by now, it gets my juices going and I get really, really inspired. I used to listen because they were seeds that I was planting in my subconscious to reprogram my mindset, the way I think automatically, the way I react to things, and that’s why I started doing it.
After that, I got sick of driving so I decided to start riding my bike and then catching the train and same thing; I would put my earphones in and I would feel even better because this time I’m putting my physical emotion and exercising at the same time that I’m planting good stuff into my subconscious. How can you avoid that resistance when there’s traffic, right, so you will not get distracted?
There’s a story of this guy that he’s creating and he was flowing every time he was in traffic because he was just blessed in the traffic. He used to say, “I’m stuck in this paradise of traffic.” His creativity would flow. He came up with an idea that a few months later generated him $3 million dollars with that idea that he came up with when he was stuck in traffic. That’s just because he was creating non-resistance by just flowing with it!
We say that we are open to receive the good and abundance that we want, but we are unconsciously blocking the door for it to come, and we sabotage what we’re about to receive.
This is a really good example that I learned from a key note speaker at the Transformation Leadership Council. Imagine your subconscious is like this rapid fan, imagine it’s moving super fast and all the good that is coming your way that you’ve been asking the Universe for; all that abundance and prosperity, all the health and relationships, -all of the sudden the fan starts to spin faster- and that great stuff is too scared, this good that you ordered through the Universe is way too scared to go in because it might get chopped up! so it backs off.
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This is exactly what we do. We are asking the Universe for all this good and abundance and prosperity and when it’s about to come our way, we panic, we freak out. We put resistance, we put that fan super fast and we push it away, we sabotage it, we’re freaking out from receiving that good because we’re feeling non-deserving.
We need to learn to remove that resistance to feel good about it, just as the good that we ordered to the Universe is about to come, that you feel okay with it, that you feel at peace, that you feel deserving from having it, so you can open your doors wide open to receive the good from the Universe so that we’re not blocking that door and sabotaging. We want to make it easy for prosperity and abundance to come your way.
How many times things have started going fantastically in your life and you say to yourself or you say out loud, “It’s too good to be true.” Words are energy, and it’s that energy that creates a resistance, so we need to remove that resistance. You got to be loose and relaxed.
Stop resistance by being loose and relaxed, just like water
Think of the water that flows regardless. If you are trying to block a leak, what is going to happen? It’s going to keep coming through because the water is loose, the water is relaxed. What happens if the water is coming down from the mountain? It doesn’t get tense as it’s flowing down the cascade or the waterfall. It just flows, it naturally comes down.
What happens when the water is flowing freely in the river and there’s a big rock? Do you think the water stops and starts fighting the rock going, “Hey, get out of my way, I was here first, get out, I need to come through!” The water doesn’t do that, the water doesn’t give any resistance to the rock which has become an obstacle on the path of the water. The water goes around the rock. The water doesn’t give any resistance to the rock. The rock is the obstacle, the water just goes, “Oh yeah, thank you,” and moves around it. This is a great analogy for you in your life.
How many times you get these roadblocks on the way and you give them resistance? You stand up and you start battling the obstacle and you’re sticking in the punches, and all this tension creates resistance. You want to be loose and relaxed and see that obstacle as a stepping-stone towards your highest good.
You want to keep your eye focused on your goal, not on the obstacle. If you’re choosing to focus on the obstacle, you just lost sight of your goal, and here you are, focusing on the obstacle, creating more of those because that’s what you’re focusing on and what you focus on expands. Now you’re battling, just like the water example, that is standing up to the rock, you’re battling, bam, then you create friction, and friction creates resistance.
You’ve got to forget about the obstacle. You’ve got to bless the obstacles so that it can become a stepping-stone towards you highest good. Just like the water, flow around it so then you can keep your eyeball on the goal, on the prize at the end. Don’t get distracted with the obstacle.
You want to focus, have your eye on the goal, not on the obstacle. You want to be loose and relaxed.
You don’t want to cause any friction and you don’t want to be focusing on the obstacle because you’re going to manifest more obstacles, and with the friction you’re going to create resistance. You want to be loose and flow freely like the water around the obstacle, so it’s a stepping-stone towards your highest good.
You cannot change other people. You cannot change the circumstances. The only thing you can change is your approach and your response.
Ladies, that’s a very important one for us, because we tend to react with our emotions very, very quickly. You can’t change other people, don’t even try it. You can’t change the circumstances, but you can change the way you respond, just like the traffic. You can get cranky and put yourself in a negative energy or you can find the way to make the most of that time to seclude yourself into your subconscious.
The only corner of the Universe that you can change is yourself.
That’s it. You can’t change anything else other than yourself. The only thing you can do is work on your mindset; doing good, taking care of your vibration, do good for other people, do good for yourself, take care of your vibration because if you’re allowing yourself to react to the situation, you’re putting a very negative, low vibration of energy, but if you’re taking the time to think about it and respond, then you’re taking care of your vibration being at a higher level. This way the evil and the hate can’t touch you.
When you’re vibrating high, hatred and evil can’t touch you, because you’re calling for the force of the highest good in you and you will attract the highest good in other people. See how it works? It’s all energy. Bless every obstacle in your path to turn it into a stepping-stone leading to your highest good.
Your Challenge for the Week!
Remember, if you’re reacting, you’re creating resistance. You don’t want to react immediately and let your default take over. You want to stop for a second, think about it and respond. Responding means your are thinking about it, you’re not acting by default so you’re removing the resistance. You want to take a few seconds to think about it before you react.
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I wanted to share with you this amasssing testimonial from a beautiful soul, part of our AmaSSSing Ladies Community, that chose to love herself regardless of any outside circumstances. She chose to put herself first, to heal herself. I’ll let you find out about her story from her own words:
“So, it finally happened… After years of frustrations, struggling with him… most importantly, with myself… I finally choose to leave everything behind for good, after I realise he’s not so into me anymore. He pulls away. He talks about “wanting to be on his own” and “wanting me to leave him because there is no turning back for us”… and everyone around him and my family knows that he wants me to leave him, except me. And yes, I am the last person to realise this. Burst into tears, heart broken… I feel him slip through my fingers.
Why is the world so cruel? I wonder if the universe just hates me for whatever I had done to myself… after days and weeks of feeling betrayed and remorse, covering myself with tears… I choose to stop hurting myself because of him, because of the mistakes I made in my life. There is no failure… and they are just a series of life lessons that had happened for me.
And it only takes me 3 weeks to pull myself out of this shitty feelings and thoughts… I was lost during those 3 weeks… I was broken from poor decisions I made because of a lack of guidance previously in my life. I did not set standards for myself and I did not value myself. And that is why things went worst. It’s okay though, I can forgive myself now…
I have such a unique view of life from most people of my age, I appreciated myself with this gift. I cherish my weirdness. And I enjoy playing games of life. -Kay Chong
I could never be able to have such a quick mindset shift without the help of my Amasssing accountability partners and great friends (Jane, Simone, Jacque, Irene, Tamara, Phoebe, Shirley, Eleni, Michelle B., and so many more) that I had met in Amasssing Ladies Retreat. Thanks to one of my greatest mentors, whom is also my dearest, beautiful friend of mine, Sandra Bravo, the founder of amasssing.com. Sandra has an amasssing soul. I feel so grateful that Universe still loves me and brought her to me. Sandra taught me the importance of self-love, self-care, to reconnect with myself and with Mother Nature. She helps me rebuild my self-confidence and self-esteem after the dark tunnel time… I feel a lot more stronger than I realise. I have overcome all of the obstacles that have been on my path thus far, and I have come out strong. And that, was by choice.
A lot of people have come into my life, and a lot of people have walked out of it. It hurt for a long time, and it felt like childhood all over again. I never really got to speak my piece to everybody, and that bothered me, because the same thing seemed to keep happening to me. I just have to let it all go. I need to change myself.
People come into my life for me. To teach me what I need to know about myself. -Kay Chong
And here’s the first letter that I curated for myself, after I decided to choose to stop blaming myself and hurting myself.
From this moment forward, I will accept responsibility for my past. I understand that the beginning of wisdom is to accept the responsibility for my own problems and that by accepting responsibility for my past, I free myself to move into a bigger, brighter future of my own choosing.
Never again will I blame my parents, my siblings, my ex, my ex family, my boss, or other employees for my present situation. Neither my education nor lack of one, my genetics, or the circumstantial ebb and flow of everyday life will affect my future in a negative way. If I allow myself to blame these uncontrollable forces for my lack of success, I will be forever caught in a web of the past. I will look forward. I will not let my history control my destiny.
The buck stops here. I accept responsibility for my past. I am responsible for my success. I am where I am today–mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally, and financially–because of decisions I have made. My decisions have always been governed by my thinking. Therefore, I am where I am today, because of how I feel.
Today is the day. Today I will begin the process of changing where I am–mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally, financially–by changing the way I think.
My thoughts will be constructive, never destructive. My mind will live in the solutions of the future. It will not dwell in the problems of the past. I will seek the association of those who are working and striving to bring about positive changes in the world. I will never seek comfort by associating with those who have decided to be comfortable.
When I faced with the opportunity to make a decision, I will make one. I understand that universe did not put me in the ability to always make right decisions. Universe did, however, put me in the ability to make a decision and then make it right. The rise and fall of my emotional tide will not deter me from my course.
Universe did not put me in the ability to always make right decisions. Universe did, however, put me in the ability to make a decision and then make it right. – Andy Andrew, The Traveler’s Gift.
When I make a decision, I will stand behind it. My energy will go into making the decision. I will waste none on second thoughts. My life will not be an apology. It will be a statement. I control my thoughts. I control my emotions. I control my actions. I control my results and destiny.
In times of adversity, I will not have a problem to deal with; I will have a choice to make. My thoughts will be clear. I will make the right choice. Adversity is preparation for greatness. I will accept this preparation. I will be prepared for something great! And the buck stops here. I love you, Kay.
Have faith that my prayers will be answered. Get some sleep. Take care of yourself. Do routine workouts. Eat Organic Foods. Practice mindfulness. Read every great book you can get. Listen to your inner self-talk. Correct it back with love whenever it falls out of track. Meditate. Live at the moment. Be kind to yourself. Be happy. Be awesome. Be amasssing. Be sexy. Be fun. Pursue your dreams. Follow your true callings and life purposes. Take massive actions towards your goals. Never lose your rock and roll.
Laugh often. Love again. Love passionately. Live freely.
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