Charisma Breeds Success
What a wonderful article from my dear mentor Harvey Mackay
Some people walk into a room and all heads turn. When they begin to speak, people are mesmerized. They instantly gain respect and trust. In a word, they have charisma, one of the most desirable and enviable qualities in the world.
What is charisma? It’s hard to define, but it is many things, such as likeability. If you want to influence people, they must like you and respect you. But charisma is so much more. I believe the definition is found in the letters of the word itself.
Confidence. Confidence doesn’t come naturally to most people. Even the most successful people have struggled with it in their careers. The good news is that you can develop confidence, just like any muscle or character trait, if you’re willing to work hard. Charismatic people believe in themselves, and share that confidence with the people around them. We want to follow leaders who believe they (and we) can do anything. Don’t ignore obstacles, but focus on what you can achieve.
Happiness. I believe we were born to be happy. The happiest people I know are not the richest or the most attractive or even the best at what they do. The happiest people are those who discover that what they should be doing and what they are doing are the same things. True happiness lies in satisfaction, which is an essential element of charisma. People who are happy are much more pleasant to be around. And they tend to spread happiness.
Authentic. Be real, be yourself, be consistent. When people know what to expect from you, they are more comfortable approaching you. Even if there may be disagreement or difference of opinion, they know whom they are dealing with, and that you have values and standards that are constantly demonstrated.
Respect. Charismatic people not only command respect, they offer it in return. You will never meet a charismatic bully – no one likes to be pushed around. I think that one of the most important skills to master is learning how to respectfully disagree. Even when you don’t agree with them, or you want them to do something different, give supporters, potential allies, and even adversaries your full attention when they’re speaking. Show that you respect their viewpoint, and they’ll more readily listen to you and your ideas.
Interested. Are you the person who walks into a room and announces, “Here I am!” or are you more likely to say “It’s so good to see you!” Putting the emphasis on others is not only charming, it’s a wonderful way to acknowledge that they are important to you.
Smile. It’s so simple, yet so significant. People like to be around pleasant people, and nothing communicates that better than a smile.
Mannerisms. Body language must match speech. Watch how charismatic people walk into a room, how they shake hands, how they hold themselves while listening to others. Good posture and confident body language can win people over on a subliminal level.
Attitude. The late Steve Jobs, the computer genius who co-founded Apple, was a very charismatic leader of technical people. When his group was designing Apple’s new Macintosh computer, Jobs flew a pirate flag over his building. Its purpose? To signify his team’s determination to blow the competition out of the water. He demonstrated the kind of can-do attitude that is contagious – with confidence in the people around him to produce successful results. Such validation makes a leader very charismatic indeed.
“The most important single ingredient in the formula for success is knowing how to get along with people,” President Theodore Roosevelt said. I believe that statement is timeless. I have never met a successful person who hasn’t figured out how to get along with others.
To that end, I have relied on the guidance of two of my favorite authors throughout my career. Here are a couple nuggets of their wisdom:
Norman Vincent Peale, author of “The Power of Positive Thinking” said, “Getting people to like you is merely the other side of liking them.”
Dale Carnegie, author of “How to Win Friends and Influence People” said: “You can win more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get people interested in you.”
I recommend you put them at the top of your reading – or re-reading – list.
Harvey Mackay’s Moral: Charisma is likeability on steroids.
How to Find Your Life’s Purpose
They say the purpose in life is to find your purpose and to live it fully. Your purpose would wake you up early in the morning and keep you up late at night. When you are on purpose you live a fulfilled life and are connected to the universe and a higher source. You were put on this earth for a reason, however discovering what it was for some may be challenging whilst for others may be impossible. Again for some, they will know it, live it, breathe it from the time they can walk and form a sentence!
I’m sure you have heard the saying – if you do what you love, you’ll never work a day in your life. Wouldn’t that be amazing? It may seem like an unrealistic dream but take a look around you, how many people do you know that are doing what they love? To name just a few, think of Sir Richard Branson, Mother Teresa and John Lennon. It’s hard to ignore what you love when you are defining your purpose, so please take this time to examine what you love, who, what & why?
Here are some questions to narrow down the search for you…
15 QUESTIONS TO FIND OUT YOUR PURPOSE IN LIFE
- What makes you smile? (Think in terms or Activities you enjoy, type of people you like, events you go to, hobbies you may have, projects you are in the middle of, etc.)
- What were your favourite things to do in the past when you were an innocent child? What about now? Have they changed?
- What activities make you lose track of time? Are these outdoor? Indoor? Alone or with friends?
- What makes you feel great about yourself?
- Who inspires you most? (Anyone you know or do not know. Family, friends, authors, artists, leaders, etc.) Which qualities inspire you, in each person?
- What are you naturally good at? (Skills, abilities, gifts etc.)
- What do people typically ask you for help in?
- If you had to teach something, what would you teach?
- What would you regret not fully doing, being or having in your life?
- You are now 90 years old, sitting on a rocking chair outside your porch; you can feel the spring breeze gently brushing against your face. You are blissful and happy, and are pleased with the wonderful life you’ve been blessed with. Looking back at your life and all that you’ve achieved and acquired, all the relationships you’ve developed; what matters to you most? List them out.
11. What are your deepest values?
Select 3-6 and prioritize the words in order of importance to you.
12.What were some challenges, difficulties and hardships you’ve overcome or are in the process of overcoming? How did you do it?
13. What causes do you strongly believe in? Connect with?
14. If you could get a message across to a large group of people. Who would those people be? What would your message be?
15. Given your talents, passions and values. How could you use these resources to serve, to help, to contribute? ( to people beings, causes, organization, environment, planet, etc.)
FINALLY ANSWER ONE FINAL QUESTION:- HOW WOULD YOU LIVE YOUR LIFE, IF MONEY WAS NO OPTION?
Now that you have answered these questions, it is important to ‘write’ your mission statement.
Your Personal Mission Statement
“Writing or reviewing a mission statement changes you because it forces you to think through your priorities deeply, carefully, and to align your behaviour with your beliefs”
A personal mission consists of 3 parts:
- What do I want to do?
- Who do I want to help?
- What is the result? What value will I create?
Steps to Creating Your Personal Mission Statement:
- Do the exercise with the 15 questions above as quickly as you can.
- List out actions words you connect with.
- Example: educate, accomplish, empower, encourage, improve, help, give, guide, inspire, integrate, master, motivate, nurture, organize, produce, promote, travel, spread, share, satisfy, understand, teach, write, etc.
3. Based on your answers to the 15 questions. List everything and everyone that you believe you can help.a. Example: People, creatures, organizations, causes, groups, environment, etc.
4. Identify your end goal. How will the ‘who’ from your above answer benefit from what you ‘do’?
5. Combine steps 2-4 into a sentence, or 2-3 sentences.
What is your purpose?
What is your mission?
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Here’s to your success,
Multi Millionaire turned Money Mindset Coach & Mentor
Get rid of Mood Swings and Depression!!!!
from nutritionist Lisa Guy
Mental illness, such as depression, is one of the most common health problems in Australia, with one in five people experiencing it at some point. People who are depressed find it difficult to function on a daily basis, they have feeli
ngs of worthlessness, they often lack motivation and are prone to insomnia.
The benefits of medication and therapy are well known, but there’s another important area to consider – your diet.
These good fats are needed to build the brain’s neural connections as well as the receptor sites for neurotransmitters such as serotonin. Research has shown people with depression appear to have lower levels of omega-3, in particular the EPA variety, and supplements can improve symptoms significantly.
- Eat more: Oily fish such as trout, salmon, mackerel and sardines. Flaxseeds, chia seeds and walnuts are also good sources.
B vitamins are important for nervous system function and the production of energy from food and are considered “anti-stress” nutrients, helping to relieve anxiety and treat depression. Niacin (B3), pyridoxine (B6) and folic acid (B9) all work with the amino acid tryptophan to produce serotonin, the “feel-good” chemical.
- Eat more: Legumes, wholegrains, nuts, seeds, green leafy vegies, eggs, chicken, red meat and milk.
- Eat less: Refined grains and processed foods.
Keep blood-sugar levels balanced. If they fluctuate during the day, so will your mood and this can be a contributing factor in people with depression. A diet high in sugary, white, processed carbohydrate foods will cause sudden peaks and troughs in the amount of glucose in your blood, which can result in irritability, fluctuating mood and anxiety.
- Eat more: Wholegrains, fresh fruits, vegies and legumes. Having smaller meals more regularly and including protein-rich foods also helps to stabilise blood-sugar levels and curb sugar cravings. Try yoghurt, nuts, seeds, eggs, fish, chicken and legumes.
- Eat less: Processed or sugary foods and cut down on caffeine and alcohol.
Serotonin, the neurotransmitter responsible for making us feel content, is manufactured in the body using the amino acid tryptophan, which must be supplied through the diet. Tryptophan is also needed to produce melatonin, which is vital for getting enough sleep. Low serotonin levels are linked to depression, anxiety, insomnia and fatigue. In clinical trials, tryptophan augmentation has been shown to diminish depression.
- Eat more: Lean chicken, turkey, beef, brown rice, fish, milk, eggs, cheese, nuts, bananas, peas, pumpkin, potato, corn and spinach.
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4 NEGATIVE EMOTIONS THAT BLOCK YOUR GREATNESS
Predominantly, there are 4 Negative Emotions that compromise success and personal empowerment on a daily basis. The truth is that these emotions will never go away. They will always be there however how you choose to deal with them will impact you, the quality of your life and your relationship with others. These 4 basic emotions are Fear, Worry, Anger, and Guilt.
Fear is probably the most debilitating emotion we possess. It seems to have a life of its own. Think back on all the opportunities you missed because of fear. There are many for all of us.
Learn to accept these emotions for what they are, but choose to have them controlled as opposed to them controlling you. Conquering small fears will build momentum over time. That is, once you become successful with managing one fear, other fears will become easier to manage. Some will even disappear. As you overcome your lower prioritized fears, your confidence builds, which helps you conquer larger fears.
Worry is the second cousin to fear and is a type of fear: FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN. Worry is one of those emotions that we understand intellectually, but its emotional grasp on us is strong indeed. How much time do we spend worrying about things that never happen? When faced with a situation that makes you worry, ask yourself: “What’s the worst possible outcome of this situation?” In reality, a lot of the things we worry about never actually happen…
ANGER is one of the primary emotions generated from the “Fight or Flight” response. Anger is the emotional energy to fight, while fear is the emotional energy to flee. Words frequently associated with anger include hostility, resentment, rage, depression, and hurt.
Have you noticed that the emotions we have discussed so far seem to be interrelated? You fear something, so you worry, and then you’re angry. The problem with all of these emotions, in addition to the obvious, is that they all tend to weaken logical and empowering decisions. Most people are angry because they’re worried and afraid. Have you ever been really angry with someone? Think about your mental state. Anger is destructive; it is mentally and physically harmful. A lot of energy is expended when you’re angry. Anger is exhausting! When you become angry with yourself, when you fail to meet your own expectations that you set (or that you believe from someone else), you get angry with yourself. This is very destructive on your self esteem and self confidence and blocks your greatness, and your authentic self.
Expecting the world to work exactly as you wish is a formula for misery. The world doesn’t care about your rules, values, or judgements. It is what it is. Again, anger is one of those topics you can intellectually understand, but that may not help you when you’re in the emotional throws of rage.
GUILT is the last of the 4 emotions, and it is probably the most deep-rooted. Guilt occurs when we are challenged by the word “should.” Regardless of whether the word is used in a question, it still implies that we should act a certain way. It’s frequently used as a manipulator by those closest to us.
Guilt motivates us by making us feel indebted or unworthy, and that’s bad. You have to learn to control guilt or it will control you. Again it violates our self confidence, self esteem and self worth.
These 4 negative emotions will block your greatness as long and for as long as you will allow it. The only way to step in your greatness is to be aware that they exist and control them. When you are in control of your own emotions you have power. You are true to your authentic self and you have the power. When this happens, Then you will be able to defuse your emotions and rationally deal with the situation in the present moment. Now that’s empowerment!
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Here’s to your success,
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