Failure, it sucks.
It feels … well embarrassing because everyone around you are full time winners – right?
Social media super stars, Instagram perfection, webinar conversions and sky rocketing sales.
Yes, it looks good…. But… it’s a lie – it is simply not true.
I know its old hat but Edison failed how many times before he invented the light bulb? One Thousand!
How many readjustments did the space shuttle make to get to the moon, how often were they NOT on track? Only MOST of the time!
In Michael Jordan’s own words “I have missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I have lost almost 300 games. On 26 occasions I have been entrusted to take the game winning shot, and I missed. I have failed over and over and over again in my life”
What are you continuously failing at?
How many times have you experienced that sinking stomach feeling when you have failed and everything has gone wrong again? How many times have you talked about your goal to your friends and family, your peers and colleagues… oh yes, they are sick of hearing about it just as much as you are sick of failing and listening to yourself. Think of that sad look you give them, the apologies the excuses, the justification for failing… once again.
WAKE UP! It doesn’t have to be this way and you can say goodbye to failure for good.
One simple mindset shift can have you reframing your failure to the point you will be shouting them to the world.
“Mistakes are the portals of discovery” James Joyce
Every stuff up, all the failures and mistakes are a kick arse way to reach your goals.
The Japanese don’t have a word for problem, instead, the most closely translated word is unexpected opportunity. The opportunity to do it differently next time and as Samuel Beckett once said “Fail, fail again, fail better”
Every failure brings you closer to finding out what is the way to overcome your struggle, whether it be in business or life.
Failing forward is a mindset that will dramatically change the way you look at your success. That hour you look back on and think is wasted – well now you know what doesn’t work when it comes to your productivity. That New Year’s exercise program you started last week and you dropped yesterday – yep that’s not the way to do it either.
Look; the logic is we are human and despite what your 5000 friends on social media tell you, we all fail and we all make mistakes – not one offs or every now and then – constantly – every single day, multiple times a day.
It is in our nature, so why fight it?
Embrace it, celebrate the unexpected opportunities and fail forward.
While you may be failing remember you are still moving forward and becoming closer to your goal.
If we are not making mistakes we are not living and the only true failure is if you stop trying.
So pick yourself up, fail forward, and “go get-em”!
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Are you ready to create the lifestyle you’ve been dreaming of?
If you’re anything like me, you grew up watching Sex and the City, no my parents weren’t that irresponsible (although Pretty Woman was a family favorite!). 😉
SATC came out in June 1998, when I was 17 and starting my second year in College, my best friend (Gonzo) and I would snuggle up in our PJs on my single bed and drink beer hiding from our parents! We’d giggle and dream that one day when we grew up our lives would be that glamorous and flying all over the world!
The other night after one of the longest, but best and most exciting years in my business to-date, I decided to switch off with some Netflix in bed and I turned on Sex and the City: The Movie, as I watched the intro I had this overwhelming feeling of gratitude, and I realized I have created this lifestyle for myself!
They have a rock solid group of amazing friends who support one another, throughout the highs (and lows – poor Carrie, I had to turn off I couldn’t bare to see her being jilted at the altar by BIG again!!)
They talk about everything – nothing is off limits, they’re honest with each other, and they work through their issues like pros.
They support each other in their businesses. Plus they’re all super successful in their own way!
They have so much fun, they laugh, cry, dress in stunning clothes, drink cocktails and travel the world and stay at beautiful high-vibe locations!
OMG I have that- that’s my life too?!
Wow, I am ridiculously lucky and literally living out my dream!
But all this would NEVER have happened if I had stayed in my little world, with a “normal” 9-5 job working away 50+ hours a week!
The transformation started when I stepped up and decided to join a high level program, surrounded by like minded individuals that support me no matter what and that opened my eyes to the lifestyle and business that was really possible for me (and not just for those ‘other’ people, that were slimmer/prettier/richer/better connected/more tech savvy/further ahead than me!!)
It helped me rewrite my money story (and even realize I had one!), I learned so much, I didn’t even know I needed to learn, I up-leveled my life and business faster than I ever dreamed possible, for example, I hadn’t even considered I needed to move house, to a bigger place with an office or that I could have an assistant, Social media, graphic designer, mentor, and best of all that I could HELP OTHER LADIES change the quality of their lives TOO! I hadn’t even considered most it, never mind even started to think I could have it and do it too!
I have traveled the world and stayed in some of the most stunning places I’ve ever been. And I met women in person that have become life-long friends!
I have been on many different seminar stages around the world and helped trained thousands of students… I have met wonderful and successful entrepreneurs, see if you can recognize some of the faces below like Ivan Misner, T Harv Eker, Ted Thomas, Mike Filsaime, Raymond Aaron, JT Foxx, Alex Mandossian… to name a few…
I want this for you too – it’s all possible, all you have to do is DECIDE, yes it’s that simple, the rest is easy!
I’m not special, if I can live this life and have my dream, then you can too!
My Upcoming Ladies Retreat in Bali has all this and more!!
I can hardly wait to meet you there!
The best part is, we have an installment plan!! That’s right 4 payments of $499 each will get you there with all inclusions!! Just book your flight and pack your bag!!!
Book now, pay later … as you go isn’t that amasssing on itself???
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~ Sandra Bravo xxx
Founder of amaSSSing Ladies Retreat
6 Ways to make 2016 the best year ever!
I came across this wonderful article from the awesome Amanda Gore which totally spoke to me as I am sure will do to you too!!!
1. Reframe 2015 with gratitude
Look back on everything that happened in 2015 and consciously choose to find something good in every thing that happened.
Some will be easy. Look back at the challenges and explore
what happened from the ‘benefit of hindsight’ – and work out what was the lesson in it for you. If you are thinking – ‘there was no lesson – it was nothing to do with me – it was all rubbish’ or anything along those lines – you may want to reflect on it a little more!
There are ALWAYS lessons for us in everything that happens to us and around us. Be grateful for all of them – good or challenging. Gratitude is the master reframer and will help you reprogram your cellular memory!
2. Create what you want for 2016
If you want to have a positive and wonderful year – see it beforehand! Imagine it. Create a story that supports it. You may not be able to design specific events but you can vividly imagine the sorts of things you would like to have happen! We often make lists at new year with resolutions and things were are going to do differently and they are mostly forgotten by February!
Instead, why not imagine you are a movie maker and you are writing an outline for a movie? You have the theme, you know the gist of the movie, you know how you want it to end up – but you leave the details to be filled in at a later time.
Giving your unconscious mind some direction like this allows it to keep running in the background, engineering things to make that movie reality!
3. Make symbols or a vision board
Go and make or buy some symbols of what you want to have happen in 2016.
If it’s a fabulous holiday – buy or make something that symbolises the destination.
If it’s a change in your relationship, buy a heart shaped something and put it where you look at it every day; if it’s a dream you have to start your own business, create a vision board with images of all the aspects you can think of that make your success something you can see.
Put your symbols and vision board in placesyou see it every day – several times to impress on your subconscious the direction you want!
4. Be present
One of my best friends who is an astonishing person says that her life purpose is to be fully present in every moment! It’s so easy to say! She is very psychic and another friend of ours asked her if she wanted to look into her future and see what was ahead. The answer was ‘no!. Because every moment is to be lived in and enjoyed as it presents!’
Living for the future – or living in the past – are both habits and patterns that keep us trapped! Being present, open to what is happening right here, right now, is the secret to enjoying every moment – even if it is an uncomfortable moment!
5. YOU are responsible for everything that happens in your world
This is a tricky one to actually get our heads around!
Your thinking creates your reality. Let me say that again – your thinking creates your reality!
The ‘lenses’ through which you see the world and everything that happens to you determine literally what you will ‘see’. It’s not the ‘truth’ or actual reality or the whole picture, but it will be your reality. How is it that 4 people who all see the same accident or event will have 4 different versions of it – and ALL of them will totally believe they are telling the truth and describing what actually happened?
Perceptions – that’s how! We don’t see, we perceive and judge. The stories you tell yourself will eventually show up in your life.
6. What environment do you want to create for yourself?
Bruce Lipton in his excellent book ‘The Biology of Belief’ says we are all ‘skin covered petrie dishes’ and that the environment we create inside our bodies – the culture in which our cells bathe every day, all day, is determined by our minds. Our mindsets – our beliefs, our repeated thoughts.
Is your petrie dish full of love and joy – or is it full of fear, anger, resentment and habits and patterns of thinking that have us looking for the worst in everything? Do you tell yourself – ‘I attract idiots’; ‘I am not good enough’; ‘I am not worth loving’; ‘I always …..’; ‘good things never happen to me’; ‘just my luck..’. Are these the things you want to program into every cell in your body?
STOP…OBSERVE your thinking and thoughts ….CHOOSE wisely and replace them with either neutral or positive phrases. CHANGE your environment.
Paint a picture of what an environment that would nurture you would look like. What would make it safe? Joyful? Happy? Fulfilling? Satisfying? Rewarding? Exciting? This may take time but it’s a worthwhile exercise!
Awareness and consciousness changes everything – it gives you choices. When you become aware of the patterns that are ruling your thinking – work on yourself to identify and remove the old habits; find someone to help you; contact me and I can give you some details of our upcoming amasssing ladies retreat and how it can help YOU!.
We usually need the help – it’s very hard for most of us to be so aware of our deeply unconscious, ingrained patterns and habits that we can see, let alone change them!
If you want a calm, joy filled, loving environment – WHO is going to create that for you?
WHO is going to be able to change the way you look at the world?
WHO is the one that will trigger you to seek insights into yourself?
WHO will change your world so it allows you to live an amasssing life?
YOU CAN’T DO IT ON YOUR OWN, & IF YOU DON’T CHANGE ANYTHING, NOTHING WILL CHANGE FOR YOU!!!
I hope 2016 will be the BEST year ever for you!! Mind you – if you choose to BELIEVE it is in every moment – it will be!
Until then, continue to be AMASSSING
~ Sandra Bravo